Last week, they scheduled her for a c-section, so we have spent the last week talking about ALL the feelings she is having. I so vividly remember my feelings in the days leading up to my due date- it's such an emotional time. I can't decide if it would have helped me knowing exactly when it was coming or not. The not knowing exactly when thing was hard...but knowing exactly when? I think that would have caused me to freak out a little more.
In all our chats over the past week, we've talked about a lot. She's asked tons of questions. I've given plenty of advice. But the one piece of advice I haven't given her? "Sleep now! You won't sleep when the baby comes."
Seriously though. Every time someone told me to "sleep now!" I wanted to throw shit at them. Of course I had heard all the horrors stories about babies not sleeping. And I was definitely not looking forward to it (as someone who LOVES my sleep).
My response to those people? Sleeping while pregnant is great (not comfortable but whatever)...but it sure has hell doesn't help me when my baby is awake every 3-4 hours. Those marathon napping weekends mean jack shit when my baby decides he's hungry and all I want to do is go back to bed. And cuddling up on the couch for an evening nap with my dog certainly doesn't do anything for me now when Elliot demands attention from the minute I get home to the minute he goes to bed.
Now I understand I'm a lucky one (at least for now) in the fact that my child sleeps pretty well. But I'm still waking up multiple times a night. And I most definitely am not able to nap away my Sunday afternoons while marathoning Harry Potter.
So "Sleep before the baby comes! You'll never sleep again!" or any variation of that is basically the most unhelpful thing to EVER say to a pregnant woman.